Venus In Cancer: Looking For Real Love
Venus In Cancer: Looking For Real Love
Astrologically speaking, every planet carries an energy that governs over a specific area of life. When it comes to matters of love, attraction, beauty, and cash flow we look to Venus for insight and direction. Venus’ superpowers lie in the ability to use love and the power of attraction to create material gain. This planet’s energy feels sweet, balanced, nurturing, and sensual. In the natal chart, Venus defines personal preferences on how love is given and received, fashion sense, aesthetic flare, luck with money, and the type of friends and lovers a person will attract.
The Planet of Love
Venus is one of the 5 personal planets in astrology. The personal planets are the ones closes to the sun; consequently, they have a strong influence in shaping the personality in a birth chart and impacting current events happening in our personal life. Venus is know as the Morning Star because she rises before the sun, but is also visible in the evening during certain times of the year. Although the planet is named after the Roman goddess of love, the qualities and folklore of a goddess that rules over love, beauty, and pleasure is present in all ancient cultures and goes by many names, she is Aphrodite to the Greeks, Oshun in Yoruba, Hathor in Egypt, and Istar in ancient Sumeria. The goddess of love “character” is based in spiritual truth; love is one of the most powerful energy forces on the earth, when used correctly it can be just as powerful as brute force. Venus represents our ability to use the spiritual force of love to create, nurture, and manifest in the material world.
In astrology, Venus is the planetary ruler of Taurus and Libra; in these two zodiac signs Venus is able to express her qualities to the fullest. Venus both embodies and indulges in sensual pleasure which makes all things related to taste, touch, visual beauty, music, and smell important to these two signs. Taurus is Venus in its simplest, most natural form. Taurus takes pleasure in the simple things; think mother earth when it comes to Taurus’ expression of Venus – natural, holistic, and nurturing. Libra is the refinement of Venus’ expression. It’s becomes less about simple pleasure and more about sharing pleasurable experiences with others. The best way to ensure consistency is to create a concept around what love, friendship, beauty, and fairness looks like when it’s properly achieved and that’s exactly what Libra does. Libra is represented as scales because its goal is to maintain natural order, not necessarily man-made law but universal law. Libra, promotes balance and compromise as a means to maintain harmony and order on Venus’ behalf.
Over the past few weeks Venus, the planet of love, beauty, and sensuality has been in fun, flirtatious Gemini. During this time Venus was less focused on finding “The One” versus finding excitement, intrigue, and good times wherever it could. The energy of Venus in Gemini was a good way to kick-off spring. It encouraged us to get out, socialize, make new connections, and get to know others over romantic conversation or quick get-aways. If you are single, you may have found yourself in a dating frenzy, your Tender alerts were non-stop, and you probably slid into flirty conversations wherever you went. Attached couples may have had the urge to spice things up, to reignite the early stages of love – when things were fun and flirty. This was a great time to rekindle romance. Everyone was focused on the fun and interesting aspects of dating and relationships.
It was fun while it lasted! Venus is now in stability craving Cancer increasing our need for a real connection with someone. Under the influence of sensitive, nurturing, and family oriented Cancer, Venus is looking for someone to relate to, someone who shares similar values, someone to bring around friends and family, to take walks in the park and relax on Sundays with. Venus in Cancer wants that special someone to shower with love and affection; someone who makes us feel good about who we are. Venus in Gemini either sparked or rejuvenated the fun in romance, now Cancer is here to add depth to love. We are more willing to do what is necessary to make our bonds tighter during this time, especially when it comes to emotional support, intimacy, and building for the future. For the next few weeks, expect your favorite home cooked meals, lots of snuggling and kisses, intimate time alone, and building or reinforcing strong emotional connections with your love interest.
The flip side that we need to be mindful of is that Cancer is sensitive, moody, and needs emotional connection like it needs water – it’s a necessity. If you aren’t in a good emotional space when it comes to love, Venus in Cancer can influence dramatic power plays. The strong urge to feel love from another can lead to desperate measures, seducing us into games of emotional manipulation and superficial love affairs. If you aren’t feeling the love you think you deserve, Cancer in Venus can cause you to create a situation where your love interest needs to prove their love you. Here situations will be intensified with emotional manipulation leaving the other person confused and reacting out of pure emotion. Another possibility for singles or those unhappy with their love life is entering into a love affair with the wrong person. This would have had a better outcome when Venus was in Gemini because things were fun and flirty; however, Cancer has a more focused and committed vibe. Gestures of love and affection will be taken seriously, connecting us with others on a deeper level during this time. Don’t give energy to people you don’t really want for the sake of not being alone. Your actions will be perceived as serious and true and when the mood passes and the relationship ends someone will be left feeling confused, hurt, and even angry which leads to DRAMA!
When Venus is in Cancer we need to be grateful and appreciate the love that we do have instead of focusing on the love that missing. Now is not the time to look for love in all the wrong places just for the sake of saying “I have someone”. Focus on the love that is real, the love from family, friends, and that special someone; appreciate the time, commitment, and loyalty that these people show you on a regular basis. If something is missing or needs to be improved in these relationships now is the perfect time to use some nurturing or romance to strengthen those bonds.